The strongest woman I have ever known
This isn't book- related in anyway, but on Thursday evening my grandmother passed away at the age of 91. She had just turned 91 on February 2 of this year. Things have been up and down since the beginning of March when my grandmother took ill and had a perforated colon. During that surgery it was discovered she also had cancer. Though she pulled through the surgery strong and tough and recovery seemed to start off very well, things took a turn for the worse a month later. The cancer had made its way from her colon to her liver and then her lungs.My husband and I spent a little over an hour and half with her in the hospital last Sunday (she had been readmitted a week ago Friday for complications). I am glad I had that time with her. I had originally planned to visit on the way home from work on Thursday, though my parents phoned and asked that I not go because they knew I would not want to see her in the condition she was in. From Tuesday to Wednesday of that week she had faded completely away. Though I was torn about what I wanted to do, I know seeing her suffer and not being able to talk or aware of anything would be too hard on me. When we got home I was debating out-loud with myself (to my husband) about what I wanted to do, when my father phoned again. My grandmother had passed away. Had we gone right there we would have known before my parents who were at my sister's having dinner.During my visit on Sunday, my grandmother was in very good spirits, was sharp and clearer than she had been in a while. She told me she was ready. She'd been ready for a week or so, had made peace with everything and she was blessed with a long and healthy 91 years. After that visit I was feeling better about things, I wasn't sad anymore. Sure I am sad she had to suffer for the last 2 months of her life and that now the space she has filled for 33 years of my life is now empty. But at the same time she lost her husband in June. They had been together 70 years (married 67 of those) and she would now be able to enjoy the rest of their forever together. My grandfather was always lost without my grandmother around and I know these last 10 months must have been hard for him as well as it was for her.My mother has lost both her parents in less than a year, though she knows how blessed she was to have them in her life as long as they were - and in mine and my sister's life. They had a great-granddaughter, they have seen both their granddaughters get married and grow up. They played an active role in our upbringing and we saw them every week.I will miss her. But I'm a better person having had her in my life as long as I have.I love you, Nana.